{"id":1062,"date":"2017-08-08T18:26:23","date_gmt":"2017-08-08T22:26:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.musictogether.com\/blog\/?p=1062"},"modified":"2017-08-08T18:27:41","modified_gmt":"2017-08-08T22:27:41","slug":"song-to-ease-separation-anxiety","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.musictogether.com\/blog\/song-to-ease-separation-anxiety\/","title":{"rendered":"A Song to Ease Separation Anxiety"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"desktop-only\" style=\"float: right; padding: 1em 1em; \">\n<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.musictogether.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/12\/JS_blog_20161202___C5-Childrens-School-5-300x197.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"197\"alt=\"Music Together Worldwide\" class=\"alignright size-medium wp-image-445\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.musictogether.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/12\/JS_blog_20161202___C5-Childrens-School-5-300x197.png 300w, https:\/\/www.musictogether.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/12\/JS_blog_20161202___C5-Childrens-School-5.png 415w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>\n<\/div>\n<p>&#8220;I still remember how nervous I felt on my son\u2019s first day of preschool,&#8221; says Music Together teacher Ellen Acuna. &#8220;I wondered if my spirited three-year-old would sit still, follow directions, or exercise impulse control if a classmate knocked down his blocks. I know he had worries of his own. Would he have to eat the snack the school gave him? Would he like his teacher? And, most frightening of all, would I come back to pick him up? If you are preparing to send your little one off to preschool or kindergarten this fall, I\u2019m sure you understand!&#8221;<\/p>\n<div class=\"mobile-only\" style=\"padding: 2em auto; \">\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.musictogether.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/12\/JS_blog_20161202___C5-Childrens-School-5-300x197.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"197\"alt=\"Music Together Worldwide\" class=\"aligncenter size-full   wp-image-445\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.musictogether.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/12\/JS_blog_20161202___C5-Childrens-School-5-300x197.png 300w, https:\/\/www.musictogether.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/12\/JS_blog_20161202___C5-Childrens-School-5.png 415w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>\n<\/div>\n<p>Transitions can be hard for young children (and grownups!). Not knowing what to expect can cause anxiety\u2014often expressed with tears. That\u2019s one reason routines and rituals are comforting. When you know what will happen next, moving on isn\u2019t so scary. <\/p>\n<p>Music is a great tool to help your child with transitions. Songs can be used to signal that a change is coming, easing transition-related anxiety between activities, like playtime to clean-up time, or settings, like home to school. <\/p>\n<p>A special Music Together song, \u201cThey Come Back,\u201d has helped many children through the transition from home to school with less anxiety. Download an mp3 and PDF of the music below. <\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-top: 10px; padding-bottom: 20px; text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/wpc.52A8.edgecastcdn.net\/0052A8\/cds\/Misc\/TheyComeBack.mp3\" target=\"_blank\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"\/content\/media-files\/download-btn.png\" width=\"42\" style=\"margin-left: 25px;\" \/>&#8220;They Come Back&#8221; song download<\/a><br \/><span style=\"text-align: center; font-size: 0.75em;\">(You may have to right-click on this link and click \u201csave link as\u201d to download the song.)<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"\/content\/media-files\/SongHandout_TheyComeBack.pdf\" target=\"_blank\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"\/content\/media-files\/PDFicon.png\" width=\"35\" style=\"vertical-align: middle;\" \/>\u00a0&#8220;They Come Back&#8221; music<\/a><\/p>\n<p>The lyrics acknowledge some of the feelings your child may have (\u201csometimes you miss them and sometimes you\u2019re sad, sometimes you kiss them and sometimes you get very mad\u201d), as well as an affirmation that \u201cwhoever takes care of you comes back, because they do love you.\u201d <\/p>\n<p>In the weeks before school starts, sing \u201cThey Come Back\u201d with your child as you talk about school together. Then make singing it a part of your routine whenever you\u2019ll be separated. This way, the song will signal that a separation is coming, allow your child time to process their feelings, and remind them that someone they love will come back for them.<\/p>\n<p>If you have any questions, please email <a href=\"mailto:news@musictogether.com\">news@musictogether.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n<hr style=\"border: none; border-top: 1.5px #4a86c3 solid; height: 1.5px; margin:2em auto\" \/>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;I still remember how nervous I felt on my son\u2019s first day of preschool,&#8221; says Music Together teacher Ellen Acuna. &#8220;I wondered if my spirited three-year-old would sit still, follow directions, or exercise impulse control if a classmate knocked down his blocks.    <a href=\"\/blog\/song-to-ease-separation-anxiety\/\">Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":12,"featured_media":1070,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6,7],"tags":[106,105,104],"class_list":["post-1062","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-experts","category-mt-at-home","tag-musical-parenting-hack","tag-separation-anxiety","tag-they-come-back"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.musictogether.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1062","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.musictogether.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.musictogether.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.musictogether.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/12"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.musictogether.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1062"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/www.musictogether.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1062\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1068,"href":"https:\/\/www.musictogether.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1062\/revisions\/1068"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.musictogether.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1070"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.musictogether.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1062"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.musictogether.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1062"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.musictogether.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1062"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}